7 Ways To Fall In Love With Yourself In Case You've Forgotten How Awesome You Are

“Love yourself first and everything falls into line.”

Falling in love with another person might seem simple — it happens every day. But if you've forgotten how awesome you are, you might need to relearn how to fall in love with yourself

With daily tasks and responsibilities pulling us in countless directions simultaneously, it's easy to lose touch with who we are and what we want from life. Few manage to achieve work-life balance, and this internal disconnect can severely limit happiness. In fact, at the end of the day, many find that they don't love themselves enough, if at all.

But, as comedian Lucille Ball once said, "Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world."

Of course, while falling in love with yourself isn't always easy (or guaranteed), these seven methods will help you reconnect with the "you" you've always wanted to be and, deep down, who you've always been.


1. Browse your local bookstore, and reconnect with books you loved as a child.

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Set aside some time to explore the shelves of your local bookstore. Purchase anything that strikes your fancy, especially those books you loved as a child, and allow your mind to get lost in the stories. By zeroing in on the creativity of others, you will begin to reengage with the imagination you once loved within yourself.

2. Volunteer at the nearest animal shelter to see unconditional love in action.

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Animals love humans for who they are, not what they do. They show the sort of unconditional love we should show ourselves. Spending even just a few hours with animals in need will remind you what's most important in life (and how fun you can be).

3. Babysit your best friend’s child to learn what it means to love and be loved.

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Children can be frustrating, but they can also be liberating. Simply being in their presence can force you to tap into ideas and feelings from yesteryear that you thought were long gone. Offer to babysit the coolest kid you know and let them teach you how to love and be loved.

4. Take yourself to the movies to indulge your not-so-guilty pleasures.

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Have you ever gone to the movies with someone who judges your preferences? It can make you feel small and silly. Heading to the theater on your own, however, will allow you to indulge your not-so-guilty pleasures and see something that makes YOU happy.

5. Go on a shopping spree — in the toy department.

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Why should kids have all the fun? The older we get, the more we lose touch with our inner child — our purest form of being. However, there's no harm in perusing the toy aisle and splurging on some coloring books or board games now and then, as they'll keep your mind sharp, while also reminding you to keep "real life" in check more often.

6. Visit the nearby nursing home to learn what truly matters in life.

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Elderly people have a lifetime's worth of wisdom to share, if only you're willing to ask. By volunteering at your local nursing home, you'll help yourself by helping others. After all, these individuals know what it's like to love (and lose) oneself and others throughout the years, so they can offer insight into what truly matters in this life so you can better gauge your personal priorities.

7. Read to children at your local library to recapture the innocence of youth.


Many local libraries feature programming and events for pre-school children throughout the year. Spend one morning reading to the little ones and reconnect with the simplicity of youth and early education. Seeing the world from their perspective will help you see everything through the fresh, reinvigorated eyes of your own inner child.

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